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Some of you are subscribers to this blog, some of you are browsing through looking at the website. Welcome! either way. I thought it might be helpful to give some context for this blog.

Disclaimer: I am not an author, I did not study English, and I own and admit that I am not great at writing.

I believe in connecting with people, and sharing information that could help with the healing process.


New Year in February...or almost March


I don't know about you, but for me this New Year is finally sinking in... now that it is almost March. I've never been a resolution person, but I do enjoy the opportunity to have a fresh start. I have found though that there are other opportunities to start fresh throughout the year if January isn't a good time. Birthdays, anniversaries(of many things not just relationships), moving, starting or ending a job or career are all examples of fresh start opportunities.


So if January, or in my case end of February is not a good time to start fresh, that is okay. One reason that mindset helps me is because it relieves the pressure. From a recovering perfectionist it is easy for me to get into a black and white mindset (perform perfectly or fail), well come to find out, it is okay to take time, to take up space, and to not perform perfectly.



Goals and Intentions


My goal with this blog this year is to continue to provide resources for current clients and anyone who is interested. They may not come as frequently, but maybe that will actually improve their quality?(no promises).

I want to share with you the books I will be reading and learning from this year, so you can read along, or know where I am headed.


Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy

I have heard so many good things about this book and I am so excited to read it in its entirety. With all things parenting, it provides a fresh perspective to validate child and parent. I am especially excited about the parts related to attachment and how we as adults have the opportunity to re-parent ourselves.



The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban

I have already written a blog with information from this book, and I am so excited to continue talking about Boundaries. Because boundaries and recovery from co-dependency and people pleasing are one of my passions, I cannot wait to read more and share more of this information.


Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD

Another book that I have heard from people how it has positively impacted them. So many people are in therapy as adults now because they are trying to process what has happened to them in their life even if they had a positive childhood. Often they have attachment wounds from their parents not showing up for them emotionally when they needed it. This happens more frequently when their parents were distant, rejecting, or self-involved. From identifying what it may have felt to be in a home with this parenting style, to how that impacts an adult emotionally, this seems like it will be a really helpful resource to many.


Platonic: how the science of attachment can help you make -- and keep -- friends by Marissa G. Franco, PhD

I am so excited about this one! I heard about this book from the "We Can Do Hard Things" podcast. Hearing Dr. Franco's explanation of attachment put so simply was helpful and refreshing. She gave new perspective and language to attachment that is impactful for all relationships, not just intimate romantic relationships. I am sure that her perspective on attachment will enrich my understanding and help me to develop a more full and expansive perspective that can positively impact me and my clients.



Thank you

Thank you for your patience as I am learning and growing, for spending your time reading or browsing my blogs. My goal is to share resources and information that might positively influence others, and I also want to be authentic and sincere, and sometimes that means I am messy. So thank you for your patience, and for being here. Follow along with what I am reading, or check out what I am learning from these resources. I am sure there will be more books this year, as my book list/pile is growing instead of getting smaller.


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